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    The Forty Days Postpartum Rest We Forgot

    April 11, 2026 / No Comments

    We spend nine months preparing the nursery, but we spend zero minutes preparing our souls for the “void” that comes after the storm of birth. In Java, where my roots are, we don’t “prepare” for postpartum with a shopping list; we prepare with a shift in tempo. There is a quiet, deeply practiced understanding that a mother must be held for forty days. Traditionally, her body is considered “open” and her energy fragile. She is surrounded by her mother or her mother-in-law—whoever brings her the most peace. There are helpers, traditional masseuses, the warming heat of Jamu tonics, and specific foods designed to “seal” the body back together. But for…

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    Soft green-toned collage illustrating the invisible labor of motherhood in a large Muslim family: a hijabi mother holding papers while children move around the kitchen, children helping wash dishes together, and a mother folding laundry quietly. Botanical sketches and soft neutral colors create a warm, reflective atmosphere about caregiving, teamwork, mental load, and everyday family life.

    Nobody Claps for the Mother Who Remembered Everything

    May 13, 2026
    Collage of modern school-morning life featuring a phone with unread notifications beside coffee, school uniforms hanging ready, a backpack and shoes prepared for the next day, an empty school hallway, and packed lunchboxes. The images reflect the quiet emotional rhythm of modern motherhood, school routines, and preparing children for ordinary days again.

    Ordinary Mondays Feel Like Mercy

    May 10, 2026
    Warm collage illustrating the emotional atmosphere of womanhood, home, and financial vulnerability: a Muslim woman browsing rugs and fabric in a store, children resting on a worn family sofa, coffee and budgeting notes beside a calculator, a cozy lived-in couch with a laptop and tea, and a beautiful dream living room with new sofas and a large rug. The collage reflects the longing for softness, beauty, dignity, and emotional ease inside ordinary family life.

    The Quiet Vulnerability of Financial Dependence

    May 12, 2026
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    Birth and The Raw Truth of Surrender

    April 10, 2026 / No Comments

    I have birthed ten children. My journey has taken me from a delivery room in Surabaya, through the busy hospitals of Riyadh, into the sacred quiet of my own bathtub at home in Riyadh, and finally to a hospital room in Sharjah. I have been the woman handled like a procedure on a hospital bed, and I have been the woman surrendering to the water in her own home—bringing life into the world on her own terms. If I could sit you down in my home today, I wouldn’t teach you how to prepare a “birth plan.” I would give you the truth about what it actually means to surrender…

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    Soft green-toned collage illustrating the invisible labor of motherhood in a large Muslim family: a hijabi mother holding papers while children move around the kitchen, children helping wash dishes together, and a mother folding laundry quietly. Botanical sketches and soft neutral colors create a warm, reflective atmosphere about caregiving, teamwork, mental load, and everyday family life.

    Nobody Claps for the Mother Who Remembered Everything

    May 13, 2026
    A collage of five photos showing the beautiful chaos of motherhood: scattered blue and green building blocks on a floor with a vacuum cleaner, a toddler sitting in a mess of flour on a dark wood floor, an overflowing dresser drawer with colorful laundry, a kitchen counter cluttered with dishes and tea, and a splattered paint mess. A yellow scribble at the bottom right symbolizes the mental load.

    An Example of My Jumbled Mind (The Forty-Tab Brain)

    April 21, 2026
    “Retro-inspired collage capturing the imaginative world of 80s and 90s television nostalgia: MacGyver-style survival tools and multitools scattered on a workbench, a neon-lit futuristic car dashboard inspired by Knight Rider, a glowing sci-fi time portal reminiscent of Quantum Leap, and a Wild West cowgirl figure standing in a dusty frontier town. The collage reflects childhood imagination, imported television culture, adventure fantasies, and the cinematic inner worlds children created before the internet era.”

    MacGyver, Quantum Leap, and My Wildly Unqualified Childhood Confidence

    May 13, 2026

About Me

Umm Abdallah

I’m an Indonesian mother of ten, now making a home in the Middle East. Most of my days are spent navigating the beautiful, heavy, and often messy reality of a large family and a body that requires me to move a little slower.

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  • Doula (2)
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